Love Me Like You Do

Love Me Like You Do by Ellie Goulding is one of my favourite songs at the moment. Ignoring the fact that it was written for the 50 Shades of Grey movie, the lyrics are so strong. Ellie’s voice has always been one I have loved, and I think it’s brilliant for this song; she is so raw and full of power that it carries the emotion and vulnerability of the lyrics and makes you feel something. This song stirs emotions deep within me and I absolutely adore the feeling.



Yahoo did a fairly interesting article on the issue, but I thought it was about time I address my feelings towards it.

It’s taken some time, and I still don’t truly understand the term and what it stands for, but while for all intents and purposes I agree with the issue, it also leaves a level of discomfort in it’s wake. Feminism can be defined as: the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of the equality of the sexes.

While I’m all for equality of the sexes, I feel that the term feminism, and many movements surrounding it (e.g. Emma Watson’s “He for She” campaign) negate those who are not cis-gendered. Feminism, and indeed those who advocate it most prominently, emphasise the idea that women should be of equal standing in the workforce, politics and everyday life, that women should not be deemed or made to feel inferior by men or other women.

But what of those who don’t fall within the ‘traditional’ gender spectrum? What of those who have traditional, societal gender roles enforced on them, but identify, whether entirely or partially with another gender or potentially no gender at all? What of the non-binary, agender, transgender+ spectrum?

How do those people fit in to feminism? Where is the inclusiveness?
For this reason, the fact that so many variations of the gender spectrum are negated in these arguments, causes discomfort in labelling myself a feminist.

Another article, states:

Sociologists make a distinction between gender and sex. Gender is the perceived or projected component of human sexuality while sex is the biological or genetic component. Why do sociologists differentiate between gender and sex? Differentiating gender from sex allows social scientists to study influences on sexuality without confusing the social and psychological aspects with the biological and genetic aspects. As discussed below, gender is a social construction. If a social scientist were to continually talk about the social construction of sex, which biologists understand to be a genetic trait, this could lead to confusion.

To be honest, I find the whole thing rather confusing. When campaigns such as ‘He for She’ are initiated, do they take these things into consideration? Do they sit and ponder their phrasing to be inclusive and well-rounded? Or do they stick with the perceived societal norms?

The real question I feel here, is that are feminists, especially those who are actively campaigning, addressing it as an issue of the perceived notions of the biological sex, or are they claiming it is a gender issue based on the societal norms and idealisations?

If anyone has any input I’m more than happy to discuss, because I truly don’t get it yet, and until such time, cannot confirm nor deny my status on feminism.

Both Of Us

I never understood why this song meant so much to me, and why I connected it to the person I do so strongly.
With him being happier now, it’s less relevant in a sense, but it still makes me think of him every time. It seems to be a recent revelation of something I’ve always known, but I connect it with my best friend. He means the world to me.

When this song first came out, I was in an awful spot, and his was bad too, if not worse. All I wanted was to be able to fix us both. I had so much love for him, but hated myself so much that I could hardly make myself happy, let alone both of us. I spent many a night with this song on repeat and sobbing into my pillow.

Now, three full years later, he has a beautiful girlfriend and seems much, much happier, and I sit here still not anywhere close to as happy as I once was, missing him and finally realising how much I care for my long time best friend and how important it is for me to see him happy.

I miss him. I love him. And as long as he’s happy, I’m happy for him.

Emma Watson: Girl Crush

So today I woke up to the announcement that the new live-action Beauty and the Beast, has cast none other than Emma Watson herself as our beautiful, intelligent protagonist, Belle. Somehow it seems like a highly unsurprising casting choice. To me, Emma is the absolute epitome of this role.

She is intelligent, she is beautiful, she breaks the traditional stereotypes forced on women and is not afraid to speak her mind. Emma Watson is one of the few female celebrities I truly admire and whose attitude I aspire to have. I’m so glad Emma has been cast as Belle and I truly am looking forward to seeing her in the role.

Long Weekend Recap

It’s Australia Day and I’m currently sitting at home reminiscing on the past few days of activity. Thursday was my last day of work for the week before a four day long weekend and I celebrated that night by heading out to the local brewhouse for a night of dancing with my sister. We had a great time dancing and just enjoying ourselves, and then a bunch of the lads from 5 Seconds of Summer and Little Sea showed up. We fangirled quietly and checked them out while we were dancing (not going to lie). Good lord are those boys good looking. I was stunned. Calum was way better looking in person than in pictures (which is crazy cause he looks fabulous in pictures), Luke and Ashton were exactly as they look in pictures, and so were the Little Sea boys. I never realised quite how tall they all are though! My 5foot1 self felt like a miniature Oompa-Loompa in comparison!

I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to speak with them somehow, but I didn’t want to annoy them and ask for a picture (they were just out trying to enjoy themselves too after all), so I typed a message into my phone and asked the security guard to show it to the boys. He handed it to Ashton who read it and typed a message back. It absolutely made my night. It was probably nothing for him to type a sentence but to me it meant the world to have his acknowledgement and know that he knew I was thankful for what they do. [1]

Friday, my best friend’s Mum (AB) and little sister (Miss E) came to visit. They live interstate now, but we started Kindergarten together, our Mums became best friends and are now godmothers to each others youngest daughters. They arrived around 12:30-1:00pm and have been here since. My sisters and I went out that night to The Vamps concert at the Hordern Pavilion in Sydney. Masketta Fall and Short Stack were the opening acts and they were both brilliant. I was a fan of the boys from the Central Coast, Short Stack when they released their second album back in 2010, but never really got into the groove with them as my parents weren’t approving of my choices in music at the time. I’m now happy to be revisiting my love for Short Stack and am very thankful to have been able to see them live. Masketta Fall on the other hand, I had never heard of before but was pleasantly surprised. A Melbourne-bred band, Masketta Fall are more Pop than Punk/Rock, but I thought they were incredible. Their current single, Summertime Girls, was catchy and upbeat, the perfect Summer track! It has since been downloaded and played multiple times on my iPod.

Both these bands were brilliant, but nothing could have prepared me for the phenomena that was The Vamps. I absolutely adore those four lads and seeing them live was an amazing experience. They looked incredible, played incredibly and were truly one of the most joyful acts I’ve ever watched. They were just so genuinely pleased to be there performing for us. James has had surgery recently so wasn’t able to play is guitar, but that didn’t mean he put any less effort or enthusiasm into his performance. I smiled and I cheered and I sang my heart out Friday night. I left the venue unable to hear over the ringing in my ears, and unable to speak or feel anything other than scratchy pain in my throat. It was a wonderful night and I truly hope they go far. I would have no qualms with spending more money to see the live again in the future. It was brilliant! [2]

Saturday was a quieter one for us. A few of us went to a family friends to surprising her Mum who was visiting from Turkey. We spent most of the uneventful afternoon there and then headed back home where we spent the afternoon swimming in the pool before my Slumber Party with Miss E. We stayed up as late as her 10 year old body could handle and headed to sleep around 10:30pm. Sunday morning we were up early and headed to Bella Vista Farm to view the Disney Pixar Sand Sculptures. They were absolutely incredible! The time, effort and skill that goes into them is outstanding and we were all quite impressed by them. [3] We were there fairly early, say 9:30am and headed home by about 11am. Spent the entire afternoon into the late evening swimming again before Round 2 of the J/Miss E Slumber Party but she crashed significantly earlier that night.

They left this morning, and there were significant tears all round, but we’ve had a brilliant weekend together and I wouldn’t change it for anything!

Happy Australia Day everybody! 🙂